Archives for the month of: January, 2012

I love bare branches.  They’re lacy.  sad, yet hopeful, creating great texture against the dramatic winter clouds.  I took a lot of pictures when I was home, and instagrammed them for your viewing pleasure 🙂

How to Peel Garlic: – If this doesn’t change everything, man, I don’t know what will.

The best eyeliner on the planet – So, I have really special eyes.  I think they’re sweaty or something.  It doesn’t  matter what kind of eyeliner I try, an hour into my evening, I have racoon eyes.  Enter Arabian Nights Intense eyeliner by Trish McEvoy. It doesn’t smudge, it doesn’t come off, it’s amazing. And there are little sparkles in it!  eeee!

 

 

Spotify – If you don’t have spotify yet, I’m sorry.  Go, now, and download it. Then tell me and I’ll send you some cool playlists I’ve built. When I think about it, I get a little teary.  I dreamed of this day, from the time I remember learning that music could come off of a CD and be emailed. We could share, I thought!  It didn’t have to be on plastic next to my stereo–it could live in the computer. Well, now it lives in the cloud and is available as much as you want.  Warning: the ads keep getting more annoying and frequent and their new terms say they’ll cut you off after 10 hours of listening a month, so the glory days are ending, but I’m not going to mind paying when they make me.  It’s a game changer.

i’m a recovering relationship book addict. i like rules and formulas and authors promising that if I do this, I will find prince charming!  hasn’t worked yet, but I’m enjoying the journey more than before. Probably because the pressure is off.  Here are 2 books and an MP3 on dating that I have found really helpful!

How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk – Van Epp – This one is a real winner.  He talks about how you need to reserve falling in love for 100 days to really observe character.  Then he explains his relationship attachment model which moves progressively through verbs about intimacy: Know – Trust – Rely – Commit – Touch.  (Touch meaning an intense physical relationship, not like, touching.)  I really learned a lot from this book including why how a guy treats the waitress affects how he will treat you.  A great read!

How to Get a Date Worth Keeping – Cloud – I just read this one.  In it, Cloud counters the ideas of Joshua Harris who creates a super serious, high-stakes courtship model for Christian relationships.  Cloud says instead, we should date a lot of people, let that stir up our issues, deal with them in community, see what is likable and desirable in a lot of different people (for example, the guy who isn’t hot might have great spiritual depth–go on one date with him and experience what that’s like for once). His plan makes a lot of sense to me, so much so that I’m on the dating warpath, averaging 2-3 dates a week 🙂 It’s been fun and good for me to not be so uber serious!

Another helpful bit lately wasn’t from a book, but rather, an MP3 from Alison Armstrong of Pax.  This radio interview talks about the relationship between chemistry and character and it’s really fascinating.  I’d love for you to listen and tell me what you think!

Have you read either of these?  Heard of Alison Armstrong? Reflections?

I’ve been thinking about scarcity a lot lately.

  • At work: there have been layoffs at the super high level: there isn’t enough money, so some people have to lose their jobs.  Also, I am asking for more money which is kindof scary!
  • In relationships: I hear from myself and my girlfriends: “…but, there aren’t any good men out there–or–If I let this one go, there won’t be another!  I’ve gotta do whatever it takes to hold on because there aren’t enough!”

Our whole world operates on the principle ofscarcity.  There are a fixed number of resources: time, money, whatever, and we’ve gotta manage it well–otherwise, it will be squandered or used up too quickly and then we’ll be left with nothing.

But is that really true?  I mean, only sortof.  God is the creator of resources.  He made time, he makes weather. When he needed to pay taxes, he got a fish to come spit them up.  When they needed lunch for a huge crowd, he thanked God and manufactured extra food.  He says we can come with a seed-sized faith and he’ll somehow make it big enough to move a mountain.

Pretty cool.  God has plenty to go around.

I am an extrovert.  Yesterday, I was tired.  really tired.  my brain was barely working.  i felt sad. i felt weird.  i left the house to pick up a prescription and buy some antifreeze.  before i left, i thought about stopping at a friend’s birthday party at a bowling alley.  after I gave my engine a drink, i got a few texts, asking when I was coming. I was guilted into it, so I drove over, knowing that I just needed to make a brief appearance and would stay for less than an hour.

I came home 8 hours later.  In that time, I bowled a great score (for me!), took a bunch of rad photos, rode in a sexy car, ate dinner with 20 friends, talked about online dating, went to another location for drinks, locked my keys in my car, called AAA, got them out, kept hanging out, met someone new, told my best story, laughed really hard and then it was 11pm.  How’d that happen?  well, I am an extrovert. People energize me. People make me happy!

Today I woke up feeling tireder and weirder and decided to cancel my evening plans to stay in and rest. It was a little painful to say no to more socializing, but after taking stock of my legitimate physical exhaustion, I was okay. I’ve had a very nice introverted evening at home, doing laundry, cooking, taking a bath, calling and emailing the people I didn’t get to see. i need to find a balance between being energized and being rested.  any extroverts out there have tips for me?

i’ve been on a new kick lately to go on a ton of dates. dates to get to know new people. dates to try out different food. dates to see what i like and dislike. dates.  not a lot of pressure. not husband hunting, just seeing what’s out there and seeing what that brings out in me.

and with this increase in numbers comes an increase in rejection.  not too much, but, you know, when you’re putting yourself out there, not everybody’s going to like you.  i’m not terribly insecure, but sometimes it still hurts.

there’s a simple solution, though, and that’s not to internalize the rejection, but just to come up with a reason for why it’s not you.  and the reason is simple: he probably just likes blondes.  he decided to click on my profile or take me to coffee or one one dinner date because he liked that artsy girl once or he likes blue eyes or he’s from the midwest, but really, i’m a huge departure from his type–the blonde type–and after stepping outside his comfort zone, he realizes it’s just too hard.  he can only be with a blonde.

and that, friends, is how you deal with rejection!  🙂

so, today was really fun!

I made quoinoa flakes for breakfast–an awesome oatmeal/cream of wheat alternative (yummy and warm!)
I went to work and didn’t have too much traffic (like, woah)
I listened to Five Iron Frenzy (they’re recording a new album!  It reminds me of my bro and when life was simpler)
I worked on a sweet magazine design (this is for the magazine I helped sell this summer–now it’s a reality!)
I gchatted with a friend and debriefed a good night last night (good night, ask me about it!)
I came home and made panang curry (My diet starts tomorrow–for real–and this is the ultimate in spicy comfort food!)
I watched What Not to Wear!!  (it is the very best show about inner healing!)

I just feel so happy!